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Monday, June 18, 2012

Natural Birth Books: A 9 Month Pregnancy Reading Program

Are you preparing for a natural birth?  Here's a list of the 9 books (one for each month of your pregnancy) I found most helpful while preparing for my natural home birth.  These are all books that I've read and personally recommend. There were some others that I read during my pregnancy that didn't make the cut. These are the best that I found, although I know there are still lots of good reads out there that I haven't gotten to yet. I'd love if you'd share your favorites in the comments. Pressed for time? I'll give you cheats for the most important sections to read.

     



1/tww  You won't actually know you're pregnant until almost the whole first month has passed, that doesn't leave much time to read a whole book.  For month one I recommend a film instead.  Once you get that positive test or even while you're trying to conceive, watch The Business of Being Born. This is a great way to become familiar with the many decisions you'll need to make for your healthcare during pregnancy and birth.  This is a great one to watch with your birth partner as well.  I am so thankful I happened to find this documentary on Netflix at the height of my baby fever before we started trying, so I went into my pregnancy and birth with eyes wide open. 

2 During month two you'll start making some of the most important decisions of your pregnancy. Who will your healthcare provider be? Where will you give birth?  Your Best Birth: Know All Your Options, Discover the Natural Choices, and Take Back the Birth Experience will help you ask the right questions when making these important selections.  It's not as simple as calling up your usual gynecologist and letting them know you're pregnant!  I was pleasantly surprised that this book by Rikki Lake and Abby Epstein was not just a rehash of The Business of Being Born movie. Even better, it is sprinkled throughout with positive natural birth stories, many from names you'll recognize. 

3 Ina May's Guide to Childbirth really is the ultimate guide to natural birth by one of America's most experienced and wise midwives. The whole first half of the book is filled with powerful positive natural birth stories told by the birthing mothers themselves.  In the second half Ina May shares her wisdom and philosophy on all things labor and birth. She lists the statistics for the births she has attended at the back of the book. It is extremely impressive, and gives a taste that almost all women really are able to birth their babies naturally.  I learned so much from this book that I directly implemented during my labor. This is an absolute must read for every woman planning a natural birth. 

4 I read HypnoBirthing hoping to pick up some relaxation techniques I could use during my birth. After reading it, I knew I would use very little from the book.  The visualization techniques and scripts with names like rainbow relaxation and blue satin ribbons just did not resonate with me. Now I know that there's no way I could have even remembered them as I focused fully on contractions. However, I did use the sleep breathing technique during labor and many times during pregnancy and motherhood. It is amazingly effective for dealing with any type of discomfort, and I often find myself actually falling asleep while using it. I also found the concept of breathing baby down rather than pushing (in the Experiencing Birth section) really intriguing. I didn't have the patience to use it during my first birth, but I might revisit it in the future. 

5 Husband-Coached Childbirth: The Bradley Method of Natural Childbirth is the book that my MIL read while preparing for labor and birth nearly 30 years ago. The value of Dr. Bradley's words is as inestimable now as when they were first published in 1965.  When it was written, having husbands at the birth rather than pacing the waiting room was a groundbreaking concept.  I love how this book is written to the birth partner and instructs on how best to help the birthing mother through the entire pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and beyond.  I recommend reading this entire book, but at least take a look at Chapter 1-10, 21, & 22.

6 Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way gets into the nitty gritty techniques of natural birth and the Bradley Method. Of course it's no substitution for the amazing Bradley classes, but it is a great introduction. It covers everything from pregnancy and nutrition to keep you low risk to relaxation and positions for labor and birthing. It has detailed explanation of normal natural labor and birth so you know exactly what to expect. (Info most doctors probably don't know!) 


7 The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding is the must-have reference guide every breastfeeding mother needs at her fingertips. It answers almost every conceivable question about breastfeeding. While we always seem to tell each other about how hard breastfeeding is, it is possible to have a positive breastfeeding experience. The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding has been such a great resource for me for everything from birth to starting solids. It leaves you feeling empowered that you can successfully feed your baby. Before baby arrives, at least read Chapters 4-8. 

8 Aside from your birth plan, one of the first big decisions you'll have to make as a parent is about vaccines. It is important to be informed about this as most hospitals routinely administer the first vaccine on the very day the baby is born! The Vaccine Book: Making the Right Decision for Your Child gives a well balanced overview of the research and lets you decide for yourself. Very eye opening! One of the other important decisions you'll have to make for your newborn (if you have a boy) is whether or not to circumcise. The Hippie Housewife challenged some of the misconceptions about circumcision in her post at Up, Down & Natural. For many families circumcision isn't just a given anymore!

9 I resisted reading too many baby and parenting books because I didn't want to get into the worrying or competition of baby hitting milestones by a certain age. I was very glad I did take a look at The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two while I was pregnant though. This is a thick book that will carry you through the first couple years of parenting, so there's no need to read it all right now. I was glad I made it through Chapters 1-9, so I knew not to worry about the normal things you never know about newborns until you have one like baby acne, cradle cap, and creaking joints. The Sears experience of naturally parenting 8 children along with their medical background is priceless. 

10 Have 9 months gone by and you're still pregnant? Hang in there Mama! Reread Ina May's Guide to Childbirth birth stories. There is no better way to learn all the ways natural birth can manifest and what to expect if you've never experienced it before. I will always tenderly remember reading and rereading these inspirational stories from women naturally birthing their babies. 


What book would you recommend to expectant moms? 



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Tuesday, June 12, 2012

The Painless Natural Homebirth of BabyE

It seems that most of the time moms-to-be are told only horror stories about labor and birth.  It fills them with fear and dread of pain.  I've even heard women say they wish they could keep their babes inside forever just to avoid having to go through labor.  Instead shouldn't we share positive birth stories to empower our sisters? I read many many birth stories in preparation for my labor and birth. I believe there is tremendous power in a positive natural birth story. Dear precious pregnant Mama, may I share my birth story with you?  Please accept my humble contribution to to that beautiful genre.

Early labor and still smiling. See not too scary, eh?


Early Labor

On Monday at about 4:30am I awoke with light contractions, the same kind I’d been having the last couple of weeks. For some reason I decided to time them and found that they were consistently ten minutes apart. When DH’s alarm went off at 6:30am I told him maybe he should stay home from work that day. It was easy to convince him as we were now fifteen days past our due date, and he wouldn’t have been able to focus on work wondering whether today was the day we would have a baby. We got up, had some breakfast, and then did a three mile walk to try to keep the contractions going. 

I was in early labor strictly speaking, but it didn't look anything like "labor" as presented on TV or in movies.  We were just going about our day.  The contractions were extremely light so that I had to stop what I was doing to even feel them enough to time them.  I did not have any discomfort what so ever. While watching a movie that afternoon, the contractions got as close as seven minutes apart, but by that evening, they were starting to space out and get more sporadic. We decided to keep our acupuncture appointment for 6:30pm. I had two other acupuncture sessions over the past two weeks with no effect. This time though, I had about four strong contractions while I was on the table, nothing like the easy ones I’d had before. I used the bathroom on my way out, and there was some bloody show. Still, I didn’t let myself get too excited after waiting for so long. I was enjoying my extended pregnancy and wasn't too uncomfortable. I knew that both Baby and I were healthy and well.  My only fear was that I would go too far beyond my estimated due date and have to be referred to an OB and a hospital. 

Serious Labor

By the time we made it to the car I was having more strong contractions. DH timed them as we drove to the grocery store, and I was surprised when he told me they were three minutes apart. They continued through the store and on the way home. Being stuck in the car unable to move was the most uncomfortable part of the whole labor. 

I'll pause here to describe what "strong contractions" felt like to me.  It seems more appropriate to adopt the term rushes than to call what I was experiencing contractions.  Technically muscles were contracting, but that term has such fear and negativity surrounding it.  To me it was the rush of power through my body.  I did not feel them as pain or cramps.  The thing I can most liken it to is lifting very heavy weights. Like a good workout, it was hard work, but it was good and healthy. My body was working hard, it knew exactly what it needed to do. I could not do anything to either resist the power or to help it along. All I could do, all I needed to do, was let my wise body to its work. 


Eyes wide open. Hi Mom & Dad!


When we arrived home about 8:00pm, I was so happy to be out of the car! The contractions quickly had me doubled over the counter to cope. Soon after our midwife just happened to call to check on us and to schedule the next biophysical profile and discuss options for my care. I was so happy and relieved to be able to tell her we might finally be in labor. She said the contractions might just be due to the acupuncture and could fizzle out, but to call her back in a couple hours if they continued. When I told her there was bloody show though, she had us go ahead and have the labor tub delivered. We were finally going to have this baby! 

Only an hour later DH decided to call the midwife back to report contractions were two minutes apart. By that time I was totally in the zone, and didn’t have much awareness of what anyone else around me was doing. Luckily I didn’t have to because DH was taking such good care of everything. My midwife listened to me through a couple of contractions over the phone, and she informed me they had already increased to only 90 seconds apart. She said she’d be over within the hour. I continued to labor until about 1:00am, switching between the toilet and the labor tub, all the time making loud “O” sounds trying to keep everything open and relaxed. I'm a pretty reserved person, so I never imagined I’d be such a vocal laborer. 

Transition

There was never a time during first stage where I felt like I was in pain or wished I could have an epidural. I never really felt like I couldn’t go on anymore, but there were three contractions that were right on top of each other when I told DH I needed a break. I think that must have been transition, because soon the contractions started to space out again and my midwife asked if I wanted her to check me to see if I was ready to push. 

Ready to Push

I couldn’t believe it all happened so fast. The first time she checked me there was just a little cervix left, the second time she checked I was ready to push. These were the only two times she did a vaginal check in my whole prenatal care and labor and even then it was completely up to me.  Since I knew dilation isn't a linear process, I didn't want to get discouraged by not seeing enough progress during the end of my pregnancy and labor.  I knew how important it was to stay relaxed and positive.

Because everyone always says pushing is their favorite part of labor, I thought I was home free, but the hardest part was really ahead of me. I pushed and pushed, but I was afraid I wasn’t doing it right and couldn’t tell at all if I was making progress. During a couple of contractions my midwife used her hand to show me where to push and assured me that I was doing just fine. She repeatedly told me I was laboring beautifully and she prayed over me that I would have the strength to continue. How encouraging and meaningful her words were to me! 

As time went on I started to get tired and discouraged. I just remember telling everyone I was so tired over and over again. Luckily my midwife suggested DH give me some Goo which we just happened to have, and she helped me find some effective positions to help get the baby’s head under my pelvic bone. I could finally reach down and feel the smooth round bulge of the baby’s head. 

When my midwife, her assistant, and her student all started to sit up around the labor tub with smiles on their faces, I knew we were getting close. My midwife helped me grunt through a couple of contractions instead of push to minimize tearing. A few more pushes and Baby's head was born. It was the most amazing and powerful feeling to push him out. 

Newborn exam on our bed.


A Big Blessing

Then I asked, rather incoherently I think, whether the bag of waters had ever broken, as I had never felt it. It turns out it was still intact, so they broke the bag, un-looped the cord from Baby's neck, and then I pushed him out. The cord being looped around was a total non-emergency, and I didn't even know it was until later. Before I knew it, I was holding my baby, and he was announcing his arrival loudly to the whole neighborhood. Our little boy was born 16 days after his due date at 3:23am after just 8 short hours of active labor.  

The real shock came when they put him in the scale sling.  It took quite a lot of effort to lift him up off the bed.  He weighed 10 pounds 11 ounces !  (That's 4.85 kg to the rest of the world.)  I don’t think I would have been so impatient with pushing if I had no known how big he was! We praise God for blessing us with our wonderful birth experience and our healthy little boy!



Big strong BabyE. Check out my muscles!

I realize that not everyone will have the same quick and painless version of birth. I just need you to know, dear Mama-to-be, that hours and hours of extreme pain in childbirth are not a foregone conclusion.  There is nothing special about me that makes me good at birthing. The very concept that I had any control over labor process is laughable. All I could do was prepare mentally and physically. Beyond that I could only put my faith in the fact that God had created women to safely and successfully birth their babies naturally almost all of the time. I have every confidence that you can have a positive natural birth experience, Mama, if that's what you desire. While the world is yelling about miserable pain and the inadequacy of your body, hear me gently whispering, You can do it!  


What is one positive memory (or hope for the future) that you have from your birth experience?  

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Welcome to the June 2012 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Embracing Your Birth Experience
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have written about at least one part of their birth experience that they can hold up and cherish.

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Carnival of Natural Parenting -- Hobo Mama and Code Name: MamaVisit Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting!
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
(This list will be live and updated by afternoon June 12 with all the carnival links.)

This post is linked up with Frugally Sustainable, Simple Lives Thursday, and The EO

Thursday, June 7, 2012

Letters to Littles {10 months}

Dear 10 month BabyE, 


What a busy month this has been!! It's was just exploding with happy times, refreshing vacations, and time with family.



We started off the month with a completely spontaneous over night adventure to a nearby town. We hiked, played mini-golf, ate out, and explored the town. The little change of scenery was just what we all needed! 



You took your first ever airplane ride to see Tia graduate from law school in California. Daddy and I had been so nervous about wrangling your busy self for hours on the plane that we almost decided not to go! The night before the trip we were awake all night as you cut two more teeth.  I really thought we were in for it! You were perfect and charming though and proved our expectations wrong as always!  We had a wonderful trip playing in the sunshine and visiting with Nana, Papa, Tia, and Uncle T. You also got to meet your Great Aunt & Uncle for the first time. 


You've done some more exploring with solids this month. The dog is really benefiting as most all the food ends up on the floor. Although you are quite capable of feeding yourself when you want to, I'd say you only get a total of 1 Tablespoon per day actually in your mouth. So far you have tried sweet potato, avocado, peach, pear, apricot, peas, rice, oats, banana, carrot, and beets.


By far your favorite is meat in any form: chicken, egg yolk, roast beef.  If you could you would say "Give me the meat mama!" Whenever you are presented with something new or exciting, you blink your eyes, giggle, and shrug your shoulders. I love all your little expressions! I love your full-body hugs and your open-mouth droolie kisses. I'm not so sure I love that you can now unroll the toilet paper and open the refrigerator door, but I guess that's pretty cute too. 


With all this fun and excitement, it's no wonder that you have started clapping and dancing to music this month. You've gotta share all that joy with the world! 


I love you, 
Your Mama




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Tuesday, June 5, 2012

A Cross-Body Bag, a Baby Blanket, and a Nursing Cover {Instant Gratification Sewing}

It's been a long time time since a craft project has been finished around here. A long time! Can it really be six months since I knitted the Ear Flap Hat for BabyE? While I love knitting, I think a simple sewing project provides the perfect instant gratification I need at this season in my life. Here are the crafty projects I've made lately...

Nursing Cover

When this amazing idea for a nursing cover showed up on my Pinterest feed, I immediately repinned it to my Craft Ideas board.  That led me to the complete tutorial at The Coterie Blog.  I don't think any Mama should feel obligated to cover up when nursing.  If that's what makes you comfortable though, this is the solution to many breastfeeding-in-public challenges. It is a true genius design like I've never seen before!  

The genius nursing cover!

It's made from soft knit fabric that feels like a cozy blanket. It wraps all the way around and the stretchy fabric makes it easy to tuck the edges securely under baby.  In other words, it is the end of all those exciting moments when Baby flings off the nursing cover. 



I had some fabric in my stash, so I decided to sew this the night before our recent trip to California. It was Baby's first plane trip and I was quite sure that my light sleeper wouldn't get any naps the entire day.  Amazingly, the nursing cover created a dark little tent for him, and he slept on my lap nearly the entire first flight! 

The best part of all is that it literally took me ten minutes to make the original version. It was so easy! Next time I make this, I think I'll add some boning at the neckline for the early days of nursing when you really need to be able to see baby and help them latch. 

Cross-Body Bag Pattern

I designed this bag for our trip to Greece a year and a half ago, and it was my faithful companion for the entire two weeks.  I wanted something that was light weight and washable.  
The cross body design and zipper made it a secure place to carry all of my most important travel items. The continuous strap that runs from the shoulder all the way under the bag made it very strong. I was able to carry my heavy camera, a novel, and a water bottle in my bag along with all my other travel essentials. 

New Cross-Body Bag Pattern


Keeping with my theme of instant gratification sewing, it was very quick and easy to make. I actually made it in two hours the night before our trip! Hmm, I see another theme: starting sewing projects when I should be packing. 





The design worked so well for me, I decided to turn it into a sewing pattern so all of you could have one too. I created a nine page PDF tutorial with complete instructions and large detailed color pictures for every step. It also includes PDF pattern pieces that you can print at home. 


GrowingSlower readers can get 10% off the pattern by using coupon code GrowingSlower10 at my Etsy shop.


You can make your very own bag!

 

  Baby Blanket

I decided to introduce a lovely to Baby as part of our mission to improve his sleep. I hated the idea of something replacing Mama or coming between, but then I got desperate and was willing to try any gentle method to help him sleep. I decided to make him a small baby blanket edged in satin. I figured if the lovey was handmade with love by Mama, maybe it wouldn't be such a bad thing. 


BabyE checks out his new Mama-made satin edged lovey.

 

On Mother's Day he took a long nap (his gift to me?) and I almost finished the whole blanket while talking on the phone to my sis. I used this Instructables tutorial to learn to sew on the blanket binding. 

When I introduced the lovey to Baby he immediately spit up all over it! I'm not sure if that's a good sign or not?  At any rate, I was happy with how it turned out for my first time doing a blanket binding. The corners are even square(-ish)! 

What have you been crafting lately? 

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